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Like a speed user, the more hits you get, the more you focus your attention and derive pleasure from their presence alone.It can even create positive perceptive illusions, literally blinding you to a new lover's negative characteristics. Nor-epinephrine levels rise, giving you the 'high' and sleeplessness of new love, while there is strong evidence that serotonin levels in new lovers resemble those found in clinically diagnosed obsessive compulsive sufferers.If he has the knowledge you are single dating, without requiring the same from him, the "balance of investment" shifts against you.You're investing heavily in him, without asking the same in return.They are happy to do it themselves, but when the tables are turned they quickly lose their mojo.Their insecurities make them try to force you into exclusivity.Your chances of meeting "the one" increase with every new guy you meet and date. Because you've balanced your neurotransmitters by multi-dating, you're now getting clearer, more rational observations of individual traits you like and dislike in men.
This dating pattern makes sense, as it gives him time to get to know you.
You radiate certainty and men flock to you like bees to honey. Like it was our unique blend of charm and charisma that won you over in a way no other man could. When you have the exclusivity conversation and communicate to him that, while other guys have been showing interest, you only want him, you validate him massively.
A guy may have five girls chasing him, but you'll be the one he's chasing. He thinks to himself, “She could have had them, but turns out, she only wanted me. ”The biggest resistance, by far, to the idea of dating multiple people, is that it's dishonest. Remember, men are already in the "multiple-dating-unless-I-say-otherwise" bandwagon. Still, if these unspoken terms of dating continue to play on your conscience, there's nothing stopping you from being open about it.
Growing your social skills while you're single is a gift. When you multi-date, you naturally have less time for one man. You'll challenge him, without trying, in a way that is natural and works. Tell him, “I'm in a 'dating only' mindset, right now.
Don't sacrifice this gift for a man until he's earned it. He'll have to earn his way up your priorities list, challenging him in a way he's not used to. I've told myself I would really get to know someone before I commit, so I'm holding myself to that for now.